Sometimes people say the most unwanted of things. Sometimes they dont realise how much it hurts - espeically if you have never been in their possistion before. Below are some of my 'favourites'.
'Dont you think its time you had another one, Mia needs a brother or sister'
Owch. This can be forgiven if they dont know we're trying but it really isnt nice to hear. Normally a 'Its not for lack of trying' is enough but for some nosey people they like to know more. I dont mind sharing the whole 'PCOS' thing with people (as long as its someone i know) as it is who I am. Some people dont like to share there inner workings and just grin and bare this silly question.
I have also been asked on the bus about giving my child a brother or sister normally a polite smile and a curtious 'We're not planning on it' and walking off does the trick.
'You should be lucky, you've already got one little girl'
This really hurts. I have been told on more then one occasion that I should be lucky to have my little girl - I am more then greaftfull to have my little girl. I dont need someone telling me I should be lucky to have her. You make me feel like I dont care about her. She has all the love and everything else she needs, She is never EVER short of hugs, kisses or I love you's. She is my baby girl and I love her.
At the end of the day it really dosent mean that my family is complete.
'Just relax, It will happen'
Erm, No it wont. Relaxing wont make my cyst coverd ovaries suddenly decied to work. Just because 'relaxing' worked for your uncle bobs, sisters, second cousions, aunties sister really dosent mean it will work for me. Science has proven that my little girl is a genuine mirical and shouldnt even exisist. How many people get hit by lightening twice?
Some times I cant help but feel like I am broken. My body dosent seem to want to do the one thing it is naturally able to do. That women before me have done for millions of years. Get pregnant.
I. Am. A. Broken. Human.
of course you're lucky you have Mia, and of course you know it!! even moreso now you've got to try hard for another. if your family doesn't feel complete it doesnt, and theres something missing in your life you feel it!!
ReplyDeleteI heard the 'shouldnt Maica have a sibling' thing alot, in our family the children are born usually just over two years apart, so to have a gap of 3.5 years is a little long. its really painful when its not like you're not trying! :(
don't get the started on the relax thing.... like relaxing did anything for my random bleeding and the short luteal phase.... or for your PCOS. It doesn't work like that, when theres a medical issue. and how can you relax when you've got people saying this rubbish!!!!
Mia is a little miracle. and i hope soon you will have another miracle too!
suz x
Thanks Suzi, Some people are just so god dammned ignorant it really winds me up.
ReplyDeleteThere is a 10yr gap between me and my elder sister - not for lack of my parents trying but my mum still thinks its okay for her to say to relax. You'd think she would know its not as easy as that.
i have had 2nd 1 said to me today :(
ReplyDeletegets me so mad